Asymetrical Girl

asymmetrical

ADJECTIVE

1. having parts that fail to correspond to one another in shape, size, or arrangement; lacking symmetry.

synonyms:

lopsided · unsymmetrical · crooked · uneven · unbalanced · off-balance · off-centre · to one side · awry · askew · skew · skewed · squint · tilted · tilting · misaligned

2· having parts or aspects that are not equal or equivalent; unequal.

synonyms:

irregular · unequal · differing · dissimilar · unlike · unalike · unidentical · unbalanced · lopsided · awry · askew · crooked · unsymmetrical · disproportionate · not matching

Were you teased a lot in your childhood? Told you were odd, weird, different and imperfect? Well then you might relate to my story. I was a tall thin girl with big eyes, big lips and crooked imperfect teeth. While in school, the words odd, weird and imperfect were always in my ear. I was teased mainly for my imperfect teeth which I inherited from my father. My mom could not afford braces for me even if she knew what they were. Because I was tall and told it was odd, I started to slouch; I hated standing out in a crowd.

The teasing got so bad and sometimes I’d be told to my face that my life would never amount to anything. This destroyed my self esteem. All I wanted to do was hide in the shadows. I didn't like meeting new people because in my head, they were judging me. In class I could never raise my hand even when I knew the answer, which was often. Some of my teachers tried to understand why I couldn't speak in class yet get correct answers on paper.

I didn’t trust myself with anything. My mind and brain had been conditioned to believe that I was imperfect beyond the physical. Each time I looked in the mirror I wondered why God didn’t make me look like one of my sisters or one of my friends. They all seemed so perfect than me.

Later when I was in college, I began to feel different about myself – slowly. Being around other girls who didn’t seem to notice my imperfections, or didn’t seem to care, I started to believe I wasn’t so bad. I slowly started to find my voice, but crooked teeth were still a problem. I had met girls who were taller than me and proud to be… Whaaaaaat????

It wasn’t until I landed a job with an advertising agency that I began to see my features as beautiful. The agency was owned and run by a beautiful woman who told me countless times that I was UNIQUELY BEAUTIFUL. She saw through my broken self-esteem and did her best to bring me out of my cocoon. She used me as a model and sent me out to do Consumer Surveys on new products to boost my confidence around strangers. I was employed as a Bookkeeper, but this extra work really helped pull me out of the hole I had been hiding in since my childhood. It was she who told me that tall and thin was beautiful. She told me my smile was the best part of me. I began to break out of the prison of my mind. The prison which had led me to believe that I was never good enough for anything.

When I launched Queen B Couture in January 2020, my desire was to celebrate beauty through fashion. Beauty in all it’s forms, colors, shapes and sizes. I believe it is the imperfect and irregular things in our lives that make us all beautiful and stand out. For how can anyone know what is perfect without the imperfect? Some of the most beautiful things in the universe are asymmetrical, e.g the Messier 66 and Pinewheel Galaxies - to name but a few.

So why Asymmetrical fashion? What better way to highlight our uniqueness, our different kinds of beauty than through irregular things. My Engage 2020 Collection is a message straight from my heart, birthed from my journey and gifted as inspiration into the world of all women. It’s a message of Hope, Faith, Strength and Re-birth. It’s a message for every woman who visits my site or social media accounts whether they buy anything or not.

Never let anyone make you feel bad for the things that make you beautiful.

Your imperfections are the most perfect parts of you. Especially the ones you were born with. You can never change your height, the color of your eyes, the size of your feet, the sound of your voice. These are the perfect things that make you unique and beautiful. Honey your freckles are gorgeous! Small hands? Big eyes? Small eyes? Thick afro? Curly hair? Pale skin? Crooked teeth? Large nose? YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! You were designed that way and you can't change it. So love it! Appreciate it! Honor it and OWN IT, because this will be with you until your time on earth is done.

The only imperfections you can change are in your behavior and attitude. That is 100% your responsibility. How you see people, how you treat people and how you speak to people. That's all on you. Someone once told me that you can't give what you don't have. If you struggle to love other people, then look inside yourself. If you can't love you, how can you love someone else? You can work on the inner person and improve yourself.

To all my Asymmetrical Queens, I love you and I hope you find this inspiring.

Bea xoxo